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Never too old for romance

Posted By Marilynh / February 8, 2017 / 4 Comments

Is your age an obstacle to finding love again?
Actually, the opposite is true.
One is never too old for romance.
And online dating is proving to be very popular and successful with seniors

 

 

It is a very interesting fact that the senior market is the fastest-growing demographic when it comes to online dating websites.   An Australian dating website claims that 22% of its membership comprises of fifty-plussers and that its oldest, registered member is 91!  A worldwide survey conducted in 2011 found that out of 25,000 people (married and cohabiting), a whopping great 37%  of respondents aged 60+ had met their partners online.

It has been on You’ve Earned It’s radar, since its inception, that at some stage in the future, we will create a YEI social/online dating platform, as it has become evident that this an area in which YEI members show great interest.   Watch this space!

In the meantime, on investigation into the reasons for this kind of dating and relationship practice, it has become evident that:

  • There is little opportunity to meet like-minded people as you grow older;
  • It is hard to figure out if singles are available for dating – it does not follow that because someone is single, divorced or widowed that they are actually interested in dating;
  • Seniors who have not dated for years have a fear of “getting it wrong”. However, online dating alleviates this concern;
  • Online is anonymous in the early stages, relatively safe and appears to work well for many seniors;
  • Getting to know someone online prior to meeting them in the flesh, takes away the stress of meeting someone new;
  • It’s a great way of making new friends, not necessarily partners;
  • Online couples have happier, longer marriages.

 

 

Michelle and David met online.  Both were widowed.  Michelle lost her husband of 31 years to prostrate cancer, after he had been ill for 3½ years.  David lost his wife after they had been married for 33 years.

Loneliness drew them both to online dating.  They had both been very happily married for 30 plus years and the finality of the marriages was very tough to handle.

One of Michelle’s friends suggested that she try online dating via a Christian online dating site.  She worked six days a week and went to church on Sundays, and therefore did not have the opportunity to meet other people.  When she eventually “bit the bullet” about a year after her husband had passed away, David was the first and only person she contacted in the online dating environment.  The reason Michelle chose David to contact was because she liked the look of his warm and friendly face!

One of the interesting facts about this relationship is the common denominator in so many aspects. 

Both Michelle and David hailed from Johannesburg, but both were living in new places, Michelle in George, and David in Cape Town.  Life had dealt them both severe blows in the death of their spouses.  But the coincidences didn’t stop there – they were both from Randburg and their children had attended the same school.  In fact, David’s daughter and Michelle’s eldest son had matriculated together and as it turned out, they had both been to each other’s homes!

With all of these coincidences, it only took a month before they got together to meet.  After a long-distance relationship of 16 months, Michelle moved to Cape Town, and after living together for 22 months, they got married, to the great delight of all of their families.  Michelle says – “It was the best decision ever.  We are SO happy and love each other to bits”.  

One of the reasons that Michelle attributes to the success of this marriage is that neither of them brought any baggage to the relationship.  Both of them often talk about their first spouses and they even have pictures up of their previous partners on the walls in their home.  The children all get on incredibly well and everyone is delighted that this couple found each other and brought happiness back into their lives.

What advice does Michelle have for her single friends?  “Try online dating.  It is so hard to believe that my life has taken a complete about-turn.  I want all of my single friends to be happy”!!

 

What a truly warm, happy ending to an online match!
Perfect for Valentine’s Day!!

 

Do you have a story to share with YEI and its readers about your experiences with online dating?
We invite you to share your story in the comments section below,
or send a mail to info@youve-earned-it.co.za

 

 

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4 Comments

  • Kobie
    February 15, 2017 at 5:49 pm

    Thanks for this will be such a great way to meet like minded people My personal experience trying online dating not very successful as many men are not there for right reasons.I am a educated lady that is very lonely as I spent last few years helping to raise my grandkids. However, I would love to meet a partner with integrity and still feel I want to love someone and to be loved. It would be wonderful. The men must be like-mindedand know they too have aged and we all have a past! Thanks for this opportunity to leave a message.

    • Marilynh
      February 16, 2017 at 7:23 am

      Thanks for the feedback, Kobie.

      Kind regards
      Marilyn, YEI Editor

  • Sandie
    February 19, 2017 at 6:39 am

    Please let me have details for senior on line dating.

    • Marilynh
      February 20, 2017 at 8:09 am

      Dear Sandie

      Please see the details in our latest column “From the Editor’s Desk” at http://youve-earned-it.co.za/yeis-best/from-the-editors-desk-4/. The relevant piece is titled YEI social forum/dating site. We recommend that you read the full piece, but very briefly, we do say YEI is actively looking at how we can best formulate the incorporation of a social forum coupled with a dating forum on the YEI platform. While we do this, requests, such as the above, may be placed on the YEI Facebook page.

      Kind regards
      Marilyn, YEI Editor

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